I’ve been wanting to come up with a list of household rules for some time, but the word “rules” has always turned me off a bit. Rules are important, don’t get me wrong. But what I wanted for our family was more than a list of do’s and don’ts. I really wanted a list of principles that would infuse our home with peace and instill habits of service and courtesy. I also wanted it to be positive, so thatwhen things go awry, my “gentle reminders” could be framed in a loving, uplifting light.
So today I wrote down our Family Code. I included things that address some common issues we have around here (such as not acknowledging when someone is talking to you, or expressing displeasure in an ultra-dramatic fashion). I also included things that I hope will be internalized as lifelong habits of behavior and interaction with others.
I’m considering having our whole family memorize the code, snooty-boarding-school-style. Otherwise I worry it’ll just hang on the wall and we won’t actually keep each other accountable. At the very least, I plan to review it regularly as a family.
OUR FAMILY CODE