If you hadn’t noticed, I don’t talk about my husband, Havarti, that much on my blog. He’s a bit shyer than I am, and I don’t want to embarrass the poor guy by spilling his stories. But he’s kind of a major part of this whole mothering gig, not to mention my life. So, since it’s Valentine’s Day and all, this post is dedicated to my sweet hubby.
One of the cool things about having a good marriage is constantly discovering and rediscovering what you love about your spouse. Some of the things I love about Havarti are constant and unchanging, having been there from the beginning. Other things are new, and have come along as we’ve evolved together as partners, parents, and individuals.
Naturally, along with all this love comes some . . . well, annoyances. I don’t think two people can spend their lives together without being bothered by anything the other one does. But I feel very fortunate that the things I find annoying about Havarti are few and far between, and none of them are even close to fatal flaws.
Actually, some of them are rather funny. Like the fact that he always leaves about an inch-and-a-half of whatever vegetable he’s just cut on the cutting board – just enough to make me ask “Why?” and not enough to actually save for any other use.
Wasteful, random veggie cutting. That’s the first annoyance that came to my mind. I’m a lucky, lucky woman.
So without further ado, here are ten off-the-top-of-my-head reasons why I love my Havarti:
1) He’s very easy to shop for. LEGO pretty much covers all bases.
2) I can count on one hand the number of times I’ve mopped our floor in the past 13 years. (It pays to marry someone who grew up in a family-run janitorial contracting business. He even picked out a special mop and mop bucket. He’s all mine, ladies.)
3) We have almost the exact same taste in movies and TV shows (which may seem like a terribly trivial thing, but after 13 years of marriage, it’s more important than I would have thought).
4) His special nickname for me is “sensei.” I love it because it’s a bit of a throw-back to my teaching in Japan the year we got married, as well as an acknowledgment of my homeschool teacher role. I also love that it’s not sappy or cheesy.
5) He doesn’t buy me jewelry or flowers on special occasions because he knows I’d be annoyed that he spent the money.
6) He does buy me my favorite chocolates because he knows that my annoyance at spending the money is outweighed by my love of the cacao bean.
7) He was just as excited to give the kids their giant Hershey’s Kisses as he was to give me my commercial-sized box of 72 dark chocolate Cella’s this morning. Such a doting daddy.
8) He talks to me in a Scottish accent sometimes just to watch me swoon.
9) He almost never complains about the fact that I’m almost always right.
10) Most of the time when he tells me I’m beautiful, or stunning, or hot, I’m curled up on the couch in my pajamas with no make-up. And I think he actually means it.
11) I know I said 10 reasons, but I wanted to add one more thing. I just really enjoy being married to him. When I hear about people getting divorced, or the subject comes up in a show or conversation, I truly can’t picture it. That’s got to be a good sign. 🙂
Happy Valentine’s Day, Havarti!
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Beautiful! He’s a keeper!
Aw this is so sweet! Yay for happy healthy marriages, and acknowledging that it’s the “hard parts” and “annoyances” are just part of what makes you both grow, and when you love someone so much those things become more funny than actually bothersome. I love #10 🙂